“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
What would we do differently if we were driven by unconditional love? How differently might we serve? What if how people perceived us didn’t matter? What if criticism or praise could be seen as simply feedback?
I recently listed my inner critic concerns and, after making the list, I noticed a trend:
- Lack of love
- Fear of what others think about me
- Be afraid of their reactions or rejections
That was a liberating moment for me. It came to me in less than 10 minutes because I realized that what I do won’t come from the outside but from my inner truth. All of these concerns weren’t in alignment with my truth. I realized that people love me just as I am and, if I shifted my perspective about my concerns, my life could change instantly.
At this moment, I realized something else – that freedom and unconditional love are best friends, co-partners in life, and that unconditional love comes when we can see our circumstances, lessons, and growth processes from the eyes of compassion instead of judgment. When we can see our lives from compassion, we liberate ourselves – and in that moment, the lessons we need to learn become available to us and others.
On being responsible
Being the CEO of my own company has been one of the major gifts I have ever had. Being in charge of my company has made available to me my major strengths and resilience, on top of all the inner work that is available for me to create.
I can no longer look around and find someone else responsible for my mistakes or shortcomings; the only one to look at is myself in the mirror. There, I always see who has ownership of everything. At the beginning of my journey, there were areas I didn’t like to see, so I tried to hide from myself.
As I matured, I realized that I needed to see my whole self, not just a snapshot of myself. I needed to embrace myself fully without judgment. When I do this, I am open to renewing myself.
Loving myself is the most significant objective in life for me and my life, business, and clients because when I love myself I am free to learn and innovate. When I am willing to fail, I am free to see others with compassion, to connect with the Divine Love available to support me and sustain me along the way.
I am free to fly, to share fully versus partially; and most of all, to be human. It means that I get liberated from my inner critic to keep moving forward and to continue accepting life. It also tells me that I am free to be a gift to the world and be of service to others because I have shifted from my cloudy view to a more authentic inner view. From this point, I understand that love and compassion give me the courage to expand beyond my self-imposed limitations.
Something you can do to work on unconditional love
I invite you to recognize how many things you aren’t doing because you are seeking external feedback or praise. If you’re avoiding something, ask yourself how this is serving you and how is it serving others.
Writing books taught me that life lessons taste better when I share them with others. I get amazed and humbled when someone shares how my books have impacted their lives. This feedback helps me realize that there is a direct impact on me when I don’t share with others.
Just as something can be liberating for me, it may be liberating for others, as well. I have come to realize that loving oneself isn’t selfish at all. On the contrary, it is valuable and even necessary for the communities we live in. It brings new energy to the work we do and the reasons why we do what we do.
The quality of my work changes by the energy it’s been created with. When I create with love versus apprehension or fear I can feel the difference.
Your story matters, and your lessons matter; share them from a space of inner love, and quiet your inner critic with a prayer:
I accept my Divine Gift, for the service of the world.
God, I surrender myself to your divine aid
For you are my protector, my council, and my courage and strength.
Please show me the way
Send me your divine angels and archangels To sustain me
So that I may share this Gift with the world.
God, you are my wings
In you, I put my trust. I open my heart to your guidance
Surround me with your strength and unconditional love.
Because I am infinitely loved by you, always and forever
I will remember that rejection is only an illusion.
And so it is.
Virginia Nava Hieger is the author of Your Unique Gift: Finding Life’s Unique Gift Proposition and Meaningful Freedom: Finding Freedom Through Wholeness, two books aimed at empowering people on a journey of self-discovery, authenticity, wholeness, and personal freedom.
As a Transformative Power™ guide, she believes each one of us has our source of inner strength and that we simply need the tools to reconnect with it to let our light shine back out into the world.