Coming to wholeness is an act of self-love

A girl is dacing among butterflies and white smoke. She is coming to wholeness, expressing herself.

Wholeness does not mean perfection: it means embracing brokenness as an integral part of life.
Parker J. Palmer.

In a society where we are bombarded with messages about what success, beauty, personal growth, spirituality, and love really mean, we can slowly lose ourselves either consciously or unconsciously. There’s another option though. We can close our hearts to be loved, accepted, or understood. That is, coming to wholeness

When we start to realize that wholeness is an act of self-love, one that happens inwardly and then we release it outwardly, we can then understand both the cost and the payoff to being wholly ourselves. 

We can come back to a circle in which we can see our whole selves. A circle where we can see our past mistakes and learn from them. A place where we can be at peace with our humanity and spirituality.

Wholeness is a constant act, an everyday choice. A choice of whether to be ourselves or a “version” of ourselves. It is coming to the presence of our spirit and true voice while being ourselves. 

Being whole isn’t an ideal, an accomplishment, or a goal—rather, it’s a simple and yet very deeply profound act of self-acceptance and self-love. 

It enables us to start loving ourselves. That starts once we have developed the courage to:

  • Integrate ourselves.
  • Let go of what no longer serves us.
  • Be at peace with who we are, even if it’s only for an instant.

What is the meaning of coming to wholeness?

The glimpse of wholeness and self-unity is a gift that we can treasure. So, we can remember what it feels like. Each time we forget this feeling, we can go to a playground and see a baby or a child just playing and being. 

Young children come with a knowing that you can sense by seeing them. They aren’t yet playing a role, playing a part, or trying to achieve something to impress anyone. 

They have this deep sense of curiosity and are in tune with their own inner joy and inner love. That’s why their presence is so magical. They are truly unique in the way they engage with the world.

Love, the cornerstone of coming to wholeness

I hope, one day, wholeness can be like buying bread at the grocery store—a bread that is so precious and treasured by others it can be an easy process to attain it. Maybe, for some, it is already easy, naturally fitting their own inner make-up. 

But for those who are the visionaries, the innovative thinkers, the creatives, or the outliers, this concept of wholeness and integration may be an ongoing challenge. During those times, it’s so important to remember who we are and love ourselves unconditionally.

I hope, one day, you and I can be in front of one another’s essential nature, and that we can experience the joy of our inner conversations expressing themselves outwardly in the presence of others.

May you be your true essence. That’s the starting point to love and forgive yourself (and the world). May you have the courage, once again, to be your true essence and share it. 

Together, may we have the courage to come back to who we are and remember that love is our truest essence. It is the time of coming to wholeness!